What Should I Keep After The Death of a Loved One?

What Should I Keep After The Death of a Loved One?

I have to say, I’m happy!  Most days I feel like I’m living the dream!  Living in Canada, I have the right and freedom to own and run my own company – which I do.  I have freedom of speech and have freedom of choice – which I use.  I have a wonderful family and for the most part, life is great!

It’s things that I call ‘curve balls’ that get thrown in that shake up my  ‘rainbow and sunshine’ happy life.  A major curve-ball that gets thrown every now and then is the death of a friend and/or loved one.  Talk about taking a major blow to the happiness!

I have actually gone through the death of a friend as well as loved ones so I know it’s not easy. Honestly, it sucks!  Of course, everyone handles and deals with death differently.   The big question eventually comes up:

“What should I keep?”

While there is no right or wrong answer to this question, I consider 2 things:

1. There is no magic number for the amount of items one should keep.

Items that remind you of their personality or carry a significant memory will be the items you will want to keep.  When my grandma passed away, I got her Mix Master.  Both my daughter and I use it when we bake as my grandma loved to bake and LOVED her Mix Master.  I also got her mixing bowls which are used almost every day in our home.  When they get taken out, it reminds us of her! In the end, I ended up keeping 2 things that are near and dear to my heart.

2. Find ways to treasure and enjoy the items you decide to keep.

Having items in a box stuffed in an attic or under the stairs does not allow you to treasure the items.  For me, I am able to physically use the items that I got from my grandma.  My dad, on the other hand, got a beautiful antique mirror.  That mirror is displayed on their wall in their home and is seen every day.  For items you are thinking of keeping, consider using the item(s), framing or displaying the items so you can see them.  Allow the items you choose to bring you wonderful, warm memories.

Of course, it will be impossible to keep everything and remembering that sometimes less is more might be a good way to think.

The important thing to remember in this entire process is to take it slow and go at your own pace.  Don’t feel pressured to part with items if you are not ready.

Remembrance Day

November is the month to remember.  Through special events and acts of remembrance, Veterans Affairs Canada recognizes the sacrifices our Veterans made. Through the Canada Remembers Program the wish to keep alive the achievements and sacrifices made by those who served Canada in times of war and peace.


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